Enmeshment
Enmeshment is a concept in psychology and psychotherapy introduced by Salvador Minuchin to describe families where personal boundaries are diffused, sub-systems undifferentiated, and over-concern for others leads to a loss of autonomous development.[1] According to this hypothesis, by being enmeshed in parental needs, trapped in a discrepant role function,[2] a child may lose their capacity for self-direction;[3] their own distinctiveness, under the weight of "psychic incest";[4] and, if family pressures increase, may end up becoming the identified patient or family scapegoat.[5]
Enmeshment was also used by John Bradshaw to describe a state of cross-generational bonding within a family, whereby a child (usually of the opposite sex) becomes a surrogate spouse for their mother or father.[6]
The term is sometimes applied to engulfing codependent relationships,[7] where an unhealthy symbiosis is in existence.[8]
Others suggest that for the toxically enmeshed child, the adult's carried feelings may be the only ones they know, outweighing and eclipsing their own.[9]
Critiques
[edit ]There are important cultural differences in how "enmeshment" would be experienced or conceptualized, however. One study found that "enmeshed" adults in the United Kingdom experienced more depression than those in Italy, because of cultural expectations in more individualistic versus more collectivist cultures.[10]
See also
[edit ]References
[edit ]- ^ H. & L. Goldenberg, Family Therapy: An Overview (2008) pp. 244, 467.
- ^ Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking (1983) p. 167
- ^ R. C. Schwartz, Internal Family Systems Therapy (1997) p. 162
- ^ Robert Bly, Iron John (1991) pp. 170, 185–7.
- ^ Goldenberg, p. 239
- ^ John Bradshaw, Reclaiming Virtue (2009) p. 390
- ^ Bradshaw, p. 272
- ^ R. Abell, Own Your Own Life (1977) pp. 119–22
- ^ Terence Real, I Don't Want to Talk About It (1997) pp. 206, 360.
- ^ Manzi C, Vignoles VL, Regalia C, Scabini E. Cohesion and enmeshment revisited: differentiation, identity, and well-being in two european cultures. J Marriage and Family. 2006;68(3):673–689. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2006.00282.x
Further reading
[edit ]- Robin Skynner, One Flesh, Separate Persons (London 1976)
External links
[edit ]- Enmeshment: Symptoms and Causes Archived 26 June 2012 at the Wayback Machine