Just Me

I have realized that the offer "to help" is one of those things that many practice, but few follow up on with action. Over the course of the last week, all sorts of offers of help have come my way related to fundraising efforts for my son. I've received suggestions, ideas, ways to make the fundraisers better/more profitable, etc... but very few have actually followed through on my request to act. "You should do this" ; "let me know how I can help"; "maybe if you tried this..."! Once again, all very "helpful", but these suggestions seem to put all the work back on me. I have resorted to the polite response of, "Oh, that's a great idea! Why don't you look into that and let me know!"

I realize some people TRULY want to help and simply don't know how to do so, but due to my own time issues, I struggle with how to direct these people more effectively. I make suggestions as to what they can do that I think need no further directions: "Well, go hunt down some donations for the silent auction!"; "Network with your circles to drum up interest!"; "Tell others about our efforts and give them information about how to donate!" Yet even with these suggestions I receive: "Well, I'm not sure if I can..."; "Maybe if you called it would mean more..." ; or "Well, I wanted to make sure it would be ok to ..."

YES, it's ok....YES....call, write, promote!

I realize people don't want to step on my toes, and I do know that I need to be "in" on what's happening regarding all fundraising efforts, but at this point, I am looking for true "DOERS!" Those who receive direction and then move on it, simply checking in with me to give me updates on progress. You want to do a bowling fundrasier...ok...DO IT! You want to put the flier in the church bulletin...ok, DO IT! Once we talk and I say that's a great idea...move on it! I need that help. I'm looking for more than the offer to "help"...I want commitment to "act!" I am a person of my word and when I offer "to help" and am given direction to do so, I act. I guess I foolishly expect that in return! Far too many people just go through the motions to appear supportive, polite, concerned...but now is the time I need to see the efforts...I need to feel the commitment...

That said, I am truly grateful to my family and friends that have begun to "act." They have called, networked, promoted, etc. For all of you I am very grateful! And to those of you who have simply moved forward and begun to act on my behalf for Najib's benefit without looking for any recognition, I'd like to say thank you for "doing."

I've talked or at least eluded to some of what is behind this issue for me in previous blogs. I crave AUTHENTICITY in my life! If you say you're a friend, be one! If you say stop by whenever you want, don't be shocked if I come knocking on your door, and if you say you want to help, then as NIKE would put it, JUST DO IT!