Fix assertions with RI triggers in heap_update and heap_delete.
If the tuple being updated is not visible to the crosscheck snapshot,
we return TM_Updated but the assertions would not hold in that case.
Move them to before the cross-check.
Fixes bug #17893. Backpatch to all supported versions.
Author: Alexander Lakhin
Backpatch-through: 12
Discussion: https://www.postgresql.org/message-id/17893-
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